It’s been a while. I’ve missed you all so much and we have lots to catch up on, but I hope you won’t mind if we start with the issue at hand, because this mama could use some advice. Strange things have started happening around our house these past few weeks, and I am at a loss, trying my best to make sense of it all.
Just a month ago I would have sworn that the terrible twos was a myth – or possibly a phase known only to mothers of hyperactive boys on a sugar rush (yes, well, shows how little I know). We were only a few months away from C’s 3rd birthday and I was blissfully unaware of anything involving temper tantrums, hissy fits and toddler attitude. Sure, she might fuss and whine about things every now and then, but before last week, it didn’t take much to calm her down. A little distraction, a promise of something fun and we were golden.
Then, as if the balance of power shifted overnight, this blissful existence abruptly came to an end. One quiet morning I was working in the studio while C played with her babysitter downstairs. Only moments after putting pen to paper, I heard a shriek. A toe-curling shriek – the kind that has a relatively new mom flying down the stairs to evaluate the severity of bodily harm. And so it began. No disasters to report, simply the fact that she no longer wanted her sitter, only her mama and nothing would convince her otherwise.
I consider myself so blessed to be able to work from home, and balance my time so that I can spend the majority of the day with her. It’s been a dream come true to be there for her anytime of the day or night. But for some reason, that no longer seems enough. It’s like she’s scared that if anyone else comes close, I’m going to go away. That’s what most of her tantrums revolve around – anyone coming in between her and her mama. Aside from those moments, she’s still as loving and brilliant as ever.
Is this typical 2 year-old behavior? I’m guessing it is, but here’s the wrinkle. Could it have anything to do with the fact that I’m expecting? We’re almost 20 weeks into the pregnancy, and although I don’t think C fully comprehends it, could she be acting out towards that too? Would love to hear from you if you’ve experienced something similar, and bring on the suggestions!
– Ana, Mama Moderne